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askye at 07:51pm on 21/11/2002
askye at 07:51pm on 21/11/2002I'm all excited about going up and seeing Mom's family for Thanksgiving, spending a week there. Except for the "oh my god! no computer except to check email!" panic.
But then I remembered that the demographics of Mom's family are very different from Dad's family.
You see, with Dad's family I never hear "when are you going to meet someone/get married/have kids." No one says this because out of the 12 second and first cousins of marriagable age: 2 are married to their high school sweehearts, my brother is married (but recently seperated) and one is recently engaged. Of THOSE one cousin has kids.
There's a polite inquiry of "are you seeing anyone?" but it's usually along the lines of "how's your job going", not a pressure question just mild interest because usually the answer is "no".
Now on Mom's side of the family, I don't know the second cousins but of the first cousins. Including my brother and I.
7 out of 9 are married. I'm the only one never married, one is recently divorced, my brother is seperated but still legally married. Of those 7, six have kids.
So I'm not sure if I'm going to hear a lot of "Why aren't you married yet?" or "When are you going to meet someone?"
I hope I don't because I don't want to spend a week of fending off variations of "You're such a pretty girl, why aren't you married yet?"
But then I remembered that the demographics of Mom's family are very different from Dad's family.
You see, with Dad's family I never hear "when are you going to meet someone/get married/have kids." No one says this because out of the 12 second and first cousins of marriagable age: 2 are married to their high school sweehearts, my brother is married (but recently seperated) and one is recently engaged. Of THOSE one cousin has kids.
There's a polite inquiry of "are you seeing anyone?" but it's usually along the lines of "how's your job going", not a pressure question just mild interest because usually the answer is "no".
Now on Mom's side of the family, I don't know the second cousins but of the first cousins. Including my brother and I.
7 out of 9 are married. I'm the only one never married, one is recently divorced, my brother is seperated but still legally married. Of those 7, six have kids.
So I'm not sure if I'm going to hear a lot of "Why aren't you married yet?" or "When are you going to meet someone?"
I hope I don't because I don't want to spend a week of fending off variations of "You're such a pretty girl, why aren't you married yet?"
curious