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So. I may be going out to dinner sometime soon on a not quite date. With a co worker's friend. Said friend came by and talked to co worker, I wandered off to the snack machine and when I came back I got put on the spot (co worker apologized) and asked if I would be interested in dinner. I didn't want to be rude and co worker has known him for a long time and so I said yes. It's dinner. Co worker has just informed me that this guy noticed my legs and liked them. This Guy is a librarian (part time right now) and has a car -- so that hits my: must have job, car, like to read requirement. But he's 20 yrs older than me and outside my +/- range for dating. But it's not a date. It's just a getting to know you dinner.

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Do not allow his age to discourage you if this goes anywhere. A mere accident of birth should not mean someone isn't a good match.

I'm not. But I was all freaking out about Dad dating someone 32 years younger than him.

Plus I was just worrying about not meeting people and going out and now I have a chance to go to dinner with someone!

So long as your dad is around 48 or so, I have absolutely no problem with that.

"or so" -> "or older"

Heh. I wonder what your Dad will say, he of the Dated-Younger-Woman experience.

Give the guy a try, speaking personally as an "older" person there's some young-at-heart ones out there, and also you're old enough yourself to have some solid life experience (good and bad) and maturity therefrom, so you're bringing quite a bit of positive to any possible relationship.

I've pretty much set my "requirements" for guys I'd be romantically interested in at: car, job, likes to read, +/- 10 years. So it's not that big of a list.

I didn't have any kind of attaction to him immediately and so I'm hesitant on that front as well. But it's dinner. And it will be nice to go out and be social.

Well, good on you! Yay for the Librarian thing - v. good kind of job. And yay for the him-liking-your-legs thing. I do understand the 'Huh' thing about the age, but if you dig him, it's not a biggy - people are people, regardless of when they were born. (er. state the obvious much?)

It's good that you're cool with it, as a getting-to-know-you thing, rather than a date thing, but I have to ask - did you think he was someone you could fancy? Not just intellectually, but, you know - in a pinging you kind of way? If you see what I mean?

I see what you mean. There was no ping. Physically he's not my type at all and we really didn't talk much -- mostly because I had to get back to work.

He liked my legs, he's a librarian, there's no immediate attraction but who knows. Just going out to dinner will be nice.

Then yay for going out to dinner - it's actually kind of cool that there's no ping, in a way, because that takes the stress out of it. If that makes sense? I find myself far more likely to kick back and have fun (and indeed flirt, inadvertently, come to think of it) when I'm not all nervous and invested. Going out is cool. Go team!

There's no stress. Actually he called me last night but I didn't get to the phone in time and since it was so close to my bedtime I decided to wait and call him tonight.

Dude, you could be going out with Giles!

If the guy were Giles (or Giles like) there would be a ping. There would be more than a ping -- maybe some zip. But the guy seems nice and I do want to get to know him better.

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