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[askye]

I'm so disorganized and I hate myself.

Since my wallet got stolen, which was this summer, I haven't really gotten a replacement and I've just been using change purses or just throwing everthing in my purse.

Anyway, Wednesday it looks like I threw away my debit card in the trash.

Today. I had to go to the library. So I put my driver'slicesnce in my change purse and my money I got from the bank -- $60. And now I've lost it. i put the money in, I went to get dressed and then it's a blank. I thought I put it in my pocket, but I got the library to check out and it wasn't there so I thought, well I left it at home. Except it's not there, I went to the library and looked and asked and left my number hopefully someone will turn it in if it's there.

This happens to me all the time becaus eI'm so disorganized and I have no idea how to get my life on track. It's just constantly spinning my wheels and I just.. @#%#(%*#)*%@)*!!!! I can't stop cussing myself out.

Comments

[fufaraw]

Oh, sweetie, I'm so sorry. This sounds very familiar, although I suspect you're probably more deeply affected by ADD than me.

The one thing I had to teach myself was to never take anything for granted. People who live with me have to understand and allow me to be OCD about checking the stove burners twice or three times, or saying as I do it, "Putting the two twenties in the wallet in the side pocket of my purse". Being obsessive about making lists, and being just as obsessive about crossing things off as I do them helps, too. Because if I don't write it down, I'll forget to do it, and if I don't cross it off, I'll do it again.

It's all learned behavior. A counselor used to dealing with ADD people could help teach you some mechanisms, but for me, finding and making habits of my own were more helpful. Even getting out of the car is a checklist: "lights off, wipers off, windows up, stick in Park, engine off, keys in my hand, doors locked. I check twice or three times that I have the keys either in my hand or clipped to my purse before I close the door. I still manage occasionally to lock the keys in the car.

Don't beat yourself up. Just work on being methodical, on developing habits to help you cope with stuff that other people seem able to do without even thinking about it.

[fiorituranotte.livejournal.com]

Don't beat yourself up, because it doesn't do any good. I am the most disorganized person on the planet, and juliana is right you have to be obsessive. Buy yourself a nice purse and wallet,always put your wallet away before leaving a store, etc., always put your money in the same slot, credit cards in the same slot, etc. I have had to get myself to the point where something doesn't feel right if my purse isn't on my shoulder, etc. Best of luck, and don't beat yourself up.

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Edit: I meant arliss, not julia. Oops.